RESIGNING FROM MY JOB




Hello MCF-ers! Hope you all had a restful weekend? A new week is upon us already. There is no better time to quit procrastinating about that Big Leap, whether it is regarding relocation, a change of job or career even, or just confronting someone who has offended/hurt us. This post is about my struggle with resigning from my job….here goes!

 

FINAL APPROVAL RECEIVED! RESIGNING IS NOT EASY!

Look at me, I am one to talk! Today, we got our final approval – notification of visa stamping and application status in myCIC account displaying the word “APPROVED“! Thank Jehovah! I have been participating in the #Hallelujahchallenge on instagram and I believed God for a testimony today. Well, we got our testimony, glory be to God in the highest. We have not received our Pick Up Mail but that is now a formality and we expect to receive this no later than tomorrow. Come to think of it, we paid for a pre-paid return envelope, so maybe our passports are already on their way to us.

 

Anyway, I had checked our myCIC account at least 3 times before seeing this confirmation. However, upon seeing this, my stomach tightened and formed a knot. I was both happy and sad at the same time. The procrastinator that I am had set the receipt of our Final Approval as a condition precedent to my resignation. Anything to delay the inevitable, I hoped.

 

MY WORK FAMILY

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I work in the Financial Services industry. For the last 4 years, I have worked day, night and midnight with my colleagues at my current firm. I consider my team mates to be my second family. We do not always get along, but which family does? Over the last 4 years, I have laughed, cried and laughed even harder. My team and I have succeeded and failed, stumbled and gotten back up. Our work schedule is so grueling at times, but you wouldn’t know it just by looking at us. We have made working long hours as much fun as possible. Misery does love company!

 

The best part of the last 4 years for me has been the life lessons I have picked up from working with my team mates. I have:

  1. Acquired a better understanding and command of the English language
  2. Learnt to try new foods and not be too picky (well, I am working on the last part, watch this space :))
  3. Learnt to manage upwards and downwards, to multi-task and to give my best in all that I do, consistently
  4. Finally, I have learnt to not be scared to fail. You see, I have learnt more about myself from my failures than from my successes. Tbh, there is really little or nothing to learn from one’s successes.

 



 

ON BECOMING…..ME

I have built a strength of character I never knew I possessed and grown thicker skin to criticism during my time in my current firm. I even picked up some expertise in drafting and reviewing legal documents. It is amazing how much you soak up when you open your mind to the prospect of learning.

 

So you see, for all the blessings and joys that relocation will bring to my real family and I, I am sad to be leaving my work family behind. Though I have told some of my colleagues that I will be resigning soon, the person who I am dreading having this conversation with is the big man himself – our oga at the top (OATP)! Telling him would make all this final, and thus start the tick-tocking of my exit clock.

 

Looking at him, I get the sense that he already knows and is just waiting for me to officially resign. This may be because our HR Head had signed my employment reference letter, presumably pursuant to her receipt of OATP’s approval. Hiss!

 

WRAPPING IT ALL UP

Even as I write this, I am reminded that this is a good dilemma to have. I am aware of the fact that we could not have been at this point without God’s grace. Furthermore, I do not take any of this for granted and remain thankful to God for His unending mercies.




Back to my resignation. Suffice it to say, that did not happen today. I will try this again tomorrow. You all have probably figured out by now that I am quite bad at resignations. I bawled my eyes out when I was resigning from my previous firm. Perhaps I grow fond of people too easily, so goodbyes are very hard for me *shrugs*

 

It is almost midnight now. Time to catch a quick “shut-eye”. Looking forward to Day 13 of the #Hallelujahchallenge at midnight tonight. See you in Hallelujah Church guys!

 

In the meantime, I would like to hear from you. Do any of you have great relationships with your colleagues? Any funny or sad resignation stories to share? Please leave your comments below.

God bless you all!

Keep Marching!

Mrs. O




10 thoughts on “RESIGNING FROM MY JOB

  1. hi Mrs O. i found you on Nairaland and i’m currently reading your blog posts. i’m fascinated by how similar most of what you say is to my situation especially when you were asking God to make your COPR your birthday prezzy.
    God did answer our prayers and then it was time to resign. i am also a chief procrastinator. my husband got tired of hearing me say, i’ll speak to my boss tomorrow”. I love my job or atleast i used to.till everything became aggressively competitive .it was as if God was saying to me, you already have your PR. what are you then waiting for?
    We expect to make landing in March. i also work(ed)in Financial services and i officially resigned this month. Do you think i resigned too early?

    1. Hi Kiki,

      Thanks for dropping by. Lol! Nice to know we have similar stories. I always knew there were people out there who would have similar stories to mine.

      No oh, I do not think you resigned too early. I wish I resigned 2 months before we left. I worked all the way up to 10 days before we left Nigeria, and it was manic!!! I wouldn’t do it again if I had to do it all over again. March is a good time to land in my opinion. Just after the worst of the cold weather is gone.

      All the best!

  2. Hmmm….been postponing tendering in my resignation all week and today is Friday!!! I need to inform my manager but it’s sooooo hard. Please I need advice. This will be my 4th resignation since starting work but it’s oh so hard!!
    Pray for me please!! 🙁

  3. Hello Mrs O,
    I just really want to appreciate you for opening yoir doors to let us experience everything u have, through your eyes! Ive gone through your writeups and they are so exciting.
    Prior to stumbling upon ur site, i had been scared as to what life really holds for me if i decide to relocate with my husband. But you have given me a fresh outlook on things and i feel so encouraged!
    We are still in the beginners process as my husband will be sitting for the EITLS next year. Our plan is that he should go first without me and our child and should be there for 2years before we join him.
    As much as ive never seen myself working in a foriegn land, i always pictured myself making enough money here in Nigeria to just go on a vacation.
    My husband and I both work for the government. We earn a substantial amount for family upkeep and have a comfortable life… to an extent.
    I work in a para.military organisation and the future with this job seems really promising for me. However, just like u, i adore the family structure so much and wouldnt want a life where i would only see my husband once in a while. And also, for the stability of the kids, the family unit as a whole would just be better.
    I have a good relationship with my colleagues but detaching wouldnt be a problem…lol.
    Pls Mrs O, just a few questions.
    Pls, can u tell me how u were able to make up ur mind and dream with ur husband?
    I also want to know if i will get a good working opportunity in canada.
    Is staying behind for 2years adviceable?
    Will we loose some benefits if we dont go as a family?
    I know that the quality of life in Canada, especially for my kids would be impeccable but im just a little confused.
    Each time i pray concerning this, there is this peace and calm i cant explain. Its beautiful.
    But i need to hear ur honest opinion on this. Thanks as i await your reply…

    1. Hi dear, thank you for stopping by and thank you for your kind words. Honestly, it was tough coming to terms with this relocation thing at first. However, the more I read about life in Canada, speaking with people who had relocated, I realised what my husband had known all along. There was an opportunity to raise our kids in a country where access to good healthcare was not a privilege of the rich only, but for everyone. I cannot speak enough about Canada. I have spoken about my motivations over and over again on my blog.

      A big sister friend of mine said something to me that moved me greatly. She said that for over 15 years, she and her husband had worked in Nigeria and did not own their own home; save for a plot of land in some remote location in Lagos/Ogun State. However, a year into their relocating to Canada, they could see themselves owning their own home.

      I’m not saying that one cannot live a comfortable life in Nigeria. Not at all. It is just that many of the privileges available only to the rich in Nigeria (access to good healthcare, good education for kids, constant electricity etc) are available to the common man here in Canada.

      Re: job opportunities, I think there are opportunities. However, I cannot speak well about this area because I haven’t looked for work or done much research there. But I do believe that with God, hard work, dedication and focus, you will find a good job. You know my heart leans more towards the family unit staying together. Hahahahaha! We have lived the other way, and it was tough! However, you know your family situation best. Perhaps, your husband can go ahead, find a job and settle down, then you and your child can join him immediately he finds a job. This may happen much much sooner than the projected 2 years. Let’s pray he finds a job immediately!

      I wish you all the best on your journey! God that started you on this journey will perfect it in Jesus Name. May it all work out for your good.

      1. Dear Mrs O,
        Thanks for replying. Was eagerly waiting 2 read from u. Thanks a lot for the encouragement. It feels good 2 know I can succeed and have a better life in Canada if i put my heart into it with lots of determination. Amen to your prayers! May God continue 2 bless u for being a torch that helps shine the way for others.
        Ive learnt so much from ur writeups and i can already smell Canada! Lol!
        Pls keep doing what you do. Looking forward to more of ur posts. All the best to u and family! Will reach you when i arrive by Gods Grace!!!
        Thanks again.

        1. Amen dear. Thank you for your kind words.

          Merry Christmas to you and yours! Looking forward to your landing testimony too!

  4. Whew! I have been trying to resign since December 2017, but my liver no gree me..lol..I got my COPR since Sept 2017 and thought by now I will be chilling in Canada.but alas resigning from my job hasn’t been easy, thinking of all the people I have to inform..Chai! Like you I have worked in the company for 4 year, almost 5 years sef..I have experienced all sorts of emotions while working..The job isn’t the easiest, I work around the clock.so you will think resigning will be easy…I have been giving myself deadlines to resign since Nov 2017…😀. Anyways, I have given myself a new deadline..mid Feb..I am going to Canada alone..so noone to drag me along..I guess my fear of change is also playing a big role here…Come Feb, I Must Resign! 😀

    1. Hahahahaha! I totally know what you are going through. Letter Must Change Hands in February! We are watching and counting down with you :p

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