My name is……..
I am a thirty-something year old Nigerian (soon to be Canadian too) lady. I am married to a wonderful husband (we shall call him Mr. O), and our Almighty God has blessed us with a son.
The idea for this blog came to me a few days after we got our passport request (PPR) from CIC. We were swamped and inundated with decisions, decisions, and more decisions.
We quickly realized that the wait for PPR was not the hardest part, contrary to what we had thought previously. The hardest part was what followed after….
- Telling our loved ones – Who, how, when, where?
- Deciding on which province (and/or city) to land in – who knew Ontario had that many cities and suburbs??
- When to go – bang in the middle of the summer holidays, with the associated high ticket prices so that we could make it to Canada in time for the new school term; or in October (off-peak ticket season)?
- Choice of flights – One way or return flight? Airline? Managing costs vs. travel duration, given that we would be travelling with a <5 year old son
- Getting accommodation; Choosing a neighborhood in which to live (see number 4 above)
- Finding a school for our little one
And these were just the “immediate” decisions we needed to make!
In the beginning…..
I am a planner by nature. Naturally, I love order, and (of course) I hate chaos and a lack of clarity. My family and I were faced with so much uncertainty around our big move, and it was wearing Mr. O and me out. Our Canadian dream was finally about to become our reality and we were not happy about it. The joy that we had felt on the day we received PPR had quickly been replaced by confusion, terror, worry and tiredness. Fortunately, I soon realized that I had felt this same way some years back……when we found out that we were having a baby.
Procrastination is the thief of time
Let me mention here that I am a career procrastinator. I have started several projects, and implemented lots of my not-so-genius ideas in my head only. Heck, I even made several multi-million Naira investments in the shares of listed Nigerian companies…..in Excel. Lmao!
When I found out I was pregnant, I decided to start a blog to talk about all the decisions we were faced with as soon-to-be parents, and how we were dealing with each one of them. See, I knew then, like I know now, that if we were facing these challenges, at least 1% of Nigerians had either experienced, or were currently experiencing same or similar challenges. I wanted to reach out to them through my blog, and share ideas and war stories; share our triumphs and failures, and learn from one another. I wanted to form a safe and caring community of mothers, grandmothers, fathers and grandfathers where respect, love and acceptance reigned.
Finding my first ten topics was very easy. I knew the first ten challenges we had faced as a family, and I, personally. I was going to crush this thing called blogging, right? Wrong! Yours truly talked about starting a blog until she gave birth, and the rest is history. Ps. I considered starting a blog catering to working mums at the time I was returning to work after my maternity leave was over.
Back to today….
Fast forward some years later, and we were at another critical decision time for our young family. And this time – older and wiser, and more determined to quit procrastinating – I took the big leap and created this blog. This is one of several leaps I hope to take personally, with my family, and hopefully with you my blog readers this year 2017 and in the years to come. You see, I am worried about the number of people that will ever read this blog, if I will have good content, and if people will want to read my content. However, I know that I will never find out if I do not try, so here goes!
Wrapping it all up
So back to the question of my name. To be very honest, it does not really matter who I am, or what my name is. In a lot of ways, I hope that I am you and you are me. We hopefully will have a lot in common, but still share some unique viewpoints on life in general which we can debate on and enlighten one another about on this blog. Fortunately, my name will not aid or abet these discussions and is thus not a “need-to-know” for the purpose of this blog.
Finally, I look forward to having open, honest and unbiased discussions with you all. Please feel free to leave your feedback here, send me a personal mail (I will try to respond within 48 hours) or comment on any of the posts.
Have fun, and happy migrating!