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FINDING MY RHYTHM


Hello everyone!!!

 

Long time no post. It has been quite hectic around here. I initially planned to publish this post last week and was so excited to share the routine that helped me “find my rhythm” with you all.

 

Then, our new business went live and all of a sudden, my life was thrown off! Lol! I literally went from finding my rhythm and being in my zone to scrambling around. I guess this is because I am new to the whole “running a business” thing. Anyway, it has taken me all this time to figure out a new routine and get my life back on track πŸ™‚

 

I also wanted to be able to say, “Hey guys! Guess what? I found my rhythm!” However, I have realised that completely settling into a rhythm will take some time. So, in the meantime, I am enjoying finding my rhythm and making tweaks here and there till I feel comfortable and happy with my routine.

 

HOW STELLA LOST HER RHYTHM

I am sure that I have said this over and over again on here, but I really like order and routines. I was so anal about ordering my life, that my work and personal emails were always well organised and sorted. The same went for my files and folders on my personal and work computers. Everything had to have its perfect place and time.

 

I hated to see unread message notifications on my laptop and phoneΒ or any other notification for that matter. My workspace was also always clutter-free. Any other wayΒ and I would have felt overwhelmed and unsettled.

 

So, moving here and losing some of the order in my life felt like the end of the world to me. I needed a routine, I needed to find my rhythm and fast too!

 

To be fair, a lot has changed in my life over the last 2 months. I went from working full time and for long hours to a stay-at-home, then a work-from-home mum. On top of that, I started this blog, relocated to Canada and began homeschooling my son.

 

All these are enough to throw anyone’s rhythm off tune. Suddenly, 24 hours just wasn’t enough time for me to get through all the stuff that I wanted to do each day.

 

I cannot count the number of times I turned to Mr O and said, “Ah! Are you sure life as an investment banker is not easier than this? What happened to the promise of longer nights, “anytime sleeps”, and just having time for myself?”

 

RESOURCES I USED IN COMING UP WITH MY ROUTINE

Mr O keeps talking about Tim Ferris (a man he truly adores!) and his Four Hour Work Week. This is my eventual goal, but I am so far from there right now. Anyway, I did a Google search for daily routines and I found two that I absolutely love: Kayla Hollatz’s and Krista Dickson’s.

 

I felt like I had experienced a lot of what Krista had in the lead up to her finding her rhythm. Also, reading through Kayla’s blog post, I was so quickly able to identify all the things that I was doing wrong.

 

WHAT I WAS DOING WRONG
    1. Checking my work emails every 30 minutes – I was so excited about the business that I wanted to know how many new orders we had, communicate with buyers and just work on improving the business.

      This meant that I was always busy or at least, I always felt like I was.

 

    1. Checking on the blog every hour – Even when I was not on the blog, I would read comments on my phone.

      Because I approve all first-time comments and also try to respond to each comment, my brain would then register this as a “Pending To Do” and I would then feel overwhelmed.

 

    1. Working in a cluttered up workspace (yuck!) – I really don’t know how this happened. I think it was partly because I would work in between homeschooling (during our 15-minute breaks).

      So, I always had our weekly homeschool file folder and some completed or new worksheets lying about on my desk.

 

  1. Going to bed really late at night – First of all, it was a bit of a challenge getting my son back to his regular sleep schedule after we moved. He finally got back on track after 5 weeks of our being here. Before however, he would sleep at about 10 pm and Mr O and I would go to bed much later.

    This meant that on most days, we would wake up anywhere between 9 am and 10 am. From this point on, I was always struggling to catch up with my day and I hated this feeling.

 

WHAT IS CHANGING
    1. Setting times in the day when I will check my emails.

 

    1. Ensuring a clutter-free workspace

 

    1. Creating and managing To Do lists

 

  1. Going to bed before midnight – Now, I would like to set the deadline to 10 pm or 11 pm, but that may not be realistic often as I have to deal with different time zones often.

 

To be honest with you guys, I am still a “work in progress” on some of the above. But I am definitely better than before I set up my routine. As a matter of fact, I am really just starting this routine this week so I am hoping things would be much calmer around here πŸ™‚ So here is what my routine looks like, or should look like lol:

 

7.30 AM TO 8.00 AM – WAKE UP TIME (ALARM)

Photo by Benjamin Voros on UnsplashI have found that the first 30 minutes after I wake up are very important as they set the tone for the rest of the day. Before, I would wake up “late” and then start scrambling around. So, I will spend this time reading my daily devotional and beginning the day with prayer.

 

My son must have a “mummy” alarm, as no more than 5 minutes after I wake up, he usually wakes up too. So, we will read the scripture and pray together.

 

8.00 AM TO 9.00 AM – BUBBA AND ME TIME

This is the official “get out of bed” time. Take a bath and bathe my son. Make breakfast (I think I need a timetable to help here) and have a quick chat about what we are going to do today. Mr O is in Nigeria at the moment, so during this time, we will also call him and speak with him.

 

9.00 AM TO – 11.30 AM – HOMESCHOOL

This is time cordoned off for homeschooling. During our breaks, I will organise my day by creating a To Do list. Note that I have not checked any emails or messages at this point. My work day has not begun yet. If necessary, I may begin prepping lunch in between homeschool. However, this should not be necessary most days.

 

I will also lay the bed and do some quick tidying up of the house sometimes during homeschool.

 

11.30 AM TO 12.30 PM – LUNCH

Make lunch and eat at the dining table with my son.

 

12.30 PM TO 1.30 PM – WORKDAY BEGINS

Read and answer emails. Follow up with customers and ensure orders have been fulfilled. If the weather is good, then we may both go to the garden and I can work while my son plays.

 

1.30 PM TO 2.30 PM – NAP TIME

My son still takes an afternoon nap, or we try to get him to have one most days. These days, an afternoon nap also gives me quiet time in which to work, so I try to enforce it. I will probably nap sometimes with him. Other times, I will try to tick some items off my To Do list, and check my social media.

 

2.30 PM to 5.00 PM – PLAY TIME….WELL NOT FOR ME

I am trying to introduce French to my son while he is home. We are also trying to get him to watch more educational programs on TV. So during this time, my son will either read (or pretend to read :)) books or watch educational and other TV programs and do some arts. He may also do some colouring, which he loves btw πŸ™‚

 

I will spend some of this time updating social media pages, drafting new blog posts and thinking up new product ideas. The plan is to stay away from my emails during this time. As I go, I will try to make this period lighter on work, and more relaxing.

 

5.00 PM TO 6.00 PM – ORDER UPDATES

Check the status of orders. Answer any new emails and send out customer feedback emails.

 

6.00 PM TO 7.30 PM – DINNER, BATH AND BEDTIME

Prepare and eat dinner. Have a bath for my son and put him to bed. We must read at least 3 stories before we sleep. This means that we must be in bed by 7.30pm in order for him to be asleep by 8.00pm.

 

We also recite our memory verse for the week and talk about the Bible story of the week. I try to get him to talk about his day – what he loved most about it, and anything that happened that made him sad.

 

Sometimes I get a, “you shouted at me when I was naughty” and I am thinking, “Duh! So you know the cause and effect. How are we going to do better next time?” Lol.

 

8.00 PM TO BEDTIME – NETFLIX AND CHILL?

Photo by Anthony Tran on Unsplash

I want to spend this time not thinking about work, but instead relaxing and clearing my head. However, I know that I may have to make some work calls at this time. I hope to keep the occurrence of this to a minimum though.

 

I used to love reading books. However, I have read less each year for the last 20 years. I miss reading and learning about the world around me. Maybe this is the time to rekindle this ‘old flame’?

 

EXTRAORDINARY EVENTS

Thursday are for thoroughly cleaning the house. So, I will have to alter my schedule a tad bit. Since our airbnb is small, I really only need 1-2 hours to get through most of it.

 

During lunch, I will check my emails and respond to most/all of the urgent ones. Then from 12.30pm to 2.30pm, I will clean and tidy.

 

Weekends are mostly relaxed. We do not have a schedule. I want to see Ottawa more, but the weather is getting COLD. We will hopefully do more of this. My son also loves going to the park. Hopefully, we will get to go out often.

 

Saturdays are my hair day. I am still working on my hair routine, but I usually start during my son’s bath time and end before midnight. Phew!

 

WRAPPING IT ALL UP – SO HERE GOES!

I am really excited with this routine and can’t wait to fully implement it and get very comfortable and consistent with it…..after this blog post that is πŸ™‚ As I evolve and get more settled into this new life, I know that my routine will also evolve.

 

I am also open to suggestions from you all on areas that I can improve on. Do you have a routine? Do you wish you had a routine? Sound out below, I love to hear from you guys.

 

Lots of Love,

 

Mrs. O

20 thoughts on “FINDING MY RHYTHM

  1. Hi Mrs O,
    Every time I read your blogs, i see myself in the way you handle things, and the fact that you NEED things to be in order, I am exactly like that to the point that if plans or things change suddenly it actually throws me off completely and takes awhile for me to get back my rhythm, hubby says that I have control problems (which is kinda true)
    My routine is not that hectic, Hubby and I work full-time (7:00am – 16:00pm)
    Get home (16:30pm) – go to gym for an hour (17:00pm-18:00pm)
    Get home Hubby is making is busy with supper
    I get some studying done( I am studying part-time) (18:30pm-19:30ish)
    We have supper together (we eat supper late) – (between 19:20pm & 19:30pm) while we having supper we are catching up on series, we do manage to watch 2 episodes, but recently we are trying to get into a habit of getting into be by 20:30 so we can do our devotion together, chat about it then sleep.
    I am normally out by 21:15, hubby still reads till about 21:30 or so.

    Washing is done every Monday and Tuesday, cleaning the house (properly) is done on Wednesday (my mom helps me with this – Thank God for her) As Wednesdays we have Homegroup at church from 19:30 – 20:30 pm so here we normally get takeouts

    Weekends, i wake up early (between 07:30 am & 08:00 am) and get some studying in while I am still fresh for about 3 hours.
    Then the afternoon is open for grocery shopping, visiting mothers and in-laws and other social gatherings with friends we might have otherwise it becomes a Netflix and Chill afternoon/evening πŸ™‚

    I hate missing gym, it is by destresser from a full day at work, so I really try hard to go.
    I am actually studying for exams at the moment writing my first paper tomorrow so last week i did miss gym because of the studying.
    Otherwise, that is my routine looking forward to see how it changes once we are in Canada next year or more so when we have a baby πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you, Thandi. Your routine looks very good. I love that you have time for the gym and for devotion. I used to be so into the gym, and not even exams could make me miss the gym. However, over the last few years, that has all gone out the window. I usually blame having a kid, but honestly, I think I just got lazy πŸ™‚ I am trying to change though. God help me!

      I must say that a lot of what I loved to do, say 10 years ago, I don’t have time for anymore. I loved watching football (soccer) and cricket. But now, I cannot remember the last test match I watched!

      Also, well done to your hubby for making supper. It makes juggling all that you do that bit easier.

      Please keep checking in, and I wish you all the best in your journey to Canada.

      Best,

      Mrs. O

  2. Hello, just take it one after the other, it’s all about planning and adjusting.

    It’s still a process though and I will say you will soon fetch the best routine as time goes by.

    Enjoy and have fun.

  3. Hello, just take it one after the other, it’s all about planning and adjusting.

    It’s still a process though and I will say you will soon fetch the best routine as time goes by.

    Enjoy and have fun.

  4. Mrs O,

    Great stuff you do. Keep it up. Would definitely reach out to you when our own journey draws closer. Still trying to make a comparison between Ottawa and Calgary. Wish someone could share an extenstive post about live in Calgary for new immigrants with toddlers.

    On another note, just found you on quora, **winks** Keep up the good work.

    1. Hehe! Lol! Thanks. I know, right? You may be able to find some information on Google though. I’ll check it out.

  5. ‘Saturdays are my hair day. I am still working on my hair routine, but I usually start during my son’s bath time and end before midnight. Phew!’….. by this you mean you make your hair yourself?

    1. Hahaha! Yes, I do. I wash, deep condition (well DC before wash) then twist it myself. I have natural hair and am trying to fix it at the moment. Luckily, this means that I am not needing to spend $$$ on salons at the moment. I can also cornrow my hair myself. I’ll see how long this lasts πŸ™‚

      1. Wonderful. We got our PPR yesterday (yipee)! My second child is a girl and I have no single idea how to make hair. My maid recently started teaching me how to weave (she can weave for Africa) she has no idea why i’m keen on learning but i’m certain it will help save hairdressing cost for my daughter and I by the time we get there. When I close from work these days I resume weaving lectures (lol) and I’m getting better at it by the day. Sorry i’m currently unable to add any helpful suggestions as regards your schedule, mine is a lot messier than yours atm hahaha.

        1. Hahahaha! Well done! Yes, you should learn to weave her hair as quickly as possible!

          Congratulations on your PPR!!! Yay! Your journey to Canada is in full swing now. When do you intend to land in Canada?

          1. We still have a couple of months to up and leave sis. You remember how I admitted being hesitant about the move in the first place until Mr O encouraged me to check out your blog? Rumor also has it that jobs are a bit slower during the cold seasons so we thought to make some more here during that period. Very importantly too, we need the children to ease into the change in weather and not take a sudden plunge from 2 extremes. So yeah, please call on me when the cold is over (lol). Well, those and few other reasons accounts for our decision to stay a bit longer.

          2. I see that you have thought it through. To be honest, we would’ve made the same decision with you. April may be a perfect time to land, although, I am not sure if the kids can start school mid-year. But you should look into this.

            Looking forward to your “I have landed” message πŸ™

  6. I started learning to sew when we started our process( since am btw jobs). It has made my routine rather hectic but am loving it!

    My day starts at 5:30am – 7:30pm with saying my prayers with hubby, reading the Quran, take my bath, bath the kids, read a book with my 5 year old. I take the children to school around 7:45 – 7:55 am. Have breakfast, check hubby”s lunch pack, have a quick word with my house keeper and pack my sewing bag. Am at the sewing institute from 8:30am – 2:45 pm. Say my afternoon prayer and pick the children from school at 3pm; sort out homework till about 4:00 to 4:15 pm depending on our homework load. Say my prayers and grab a quick snack and head back to the institute 4:15pm – 6.00pm. Have dinner while catching up with a series or two say my evening prayer with hubby. Gist with the children and hubby about their day till 7:30ish. Take the children to bed and tell them stories till they sleep off usually around 8 – 8:15 pm ( my toddler takes forever to sleep!). Say my prayers with hubby at the masjid , watch a movie, at times sew an attire or just spend time with hubby till I sleep off usually around 11 – 12 midnight.

    1. Wow! Well done! I learnt to sew, or started to learn to sew about 10 years ago. Never really finished learning, plus I was my own tutor πŸ™‚

      I do think though that sewing will be a very handy skill to have here. Your schedule is almost military, lol! Look at how you spend your 4.00pm to 4.15pm!! Amazing! Well done dear. All the best with your Canadian journey.

  7. Hi Mrs O, I am so glad I finally got to read your blog today, you are doing a good job. We finally submitted our application last friday and I don’t know why I am so nervous and having jitters, it has only been 3 days…lol. We share some similarities as we also do not know anyone in Canada and this is a big step for us, we are hoping for the best by the grace of God. We are also considering landing in Ottawa and I will continue to read your posts for more insight. All the best sis.

    1. Aww!! Mama Tammy! Thank you for stopping by. Ottawa is a really lovely city, and I am sure you will like it if you choose to land here. Don’t be nervous about the application. Although, I was nervous too. Hehehehe! God’s working it all out for your good. Amen.

  8. Welcome back Mrs O. I got to “I did a Google search” and I was like this woman can research shaπŸ™‚

    I totally understand your need for order because I am the same way. Though, in my case it seems that my older child did not read the memo he received ( he ll be 3 in January)

    I received ITA last week. Still trying to get everything together and I should submit soon.

    I look forward to exploring Canada when we get PPR but for now I really am enjoying the view through your eyes. Thanks again

    1. Ah! Yes oh! I can over-research. The blessing and the burden! Lol, he’s a kid. My son clearly cannot read his own memo, if he received one that is. Tbh, he is quite OCD about certain things but definitely not nearly up to my own. Lol!

      Congratulations on your ITA!!! All the best with preparing your application. Take your time and ensure that you submit all that is required.

      Thanks for stopping by and see you soon.

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